Coaching “Requests” are issued in the hope that exponential growth will occur for the client. Thus, it is understandable to ask, “Are there such magic words?” It is understandable that one would want to ask the question, “Is there such a magic word?
Just as books on how to speak have become popular, people expect others to change by the way they express themselves.
It is natural that a “Requests” from a professional coach who has mastered the essence of coaching and accumulated a lot of practice can bring about a dramatic change in a client. However, it is also true that if you take just the words of the requests, it is often a very general expression that “doesn’t feel very magical”. What I mean by that is…
When we unpack the relationship in which coaching is established, there are three principles of coaching.
This is because the coaching skills of “approval,” “listening,” and “questioning” are reflected in ongoing sessions between the coach and client, and a deep sense of trust is fostered between them. Therefore, people do not change by “magic words,” so to speak, which are just words on their own.
Now that you understand the above, let me briefly explain some points to keep in mind for the request to be effective.
Communicate straightforwardly.
Do you ever use long preliminaries or roundabout expressions because you don’t want your request to be rejected? This can cause confusion and discomfort for the client. They may ask back, “What is it that you want me to do? It is easier for people to make decisions when they know exactly what is desired.
“By all means, please try that.”
Communicate with a sense of expectation toward the other person.
(Example)
You have achieved a lot in the past. I am confident that you can do it. I am sure you can do it. Why don’t you give it a try?
I feel your work is very polite. The other thing is Subido. Why don’t you try to combine those two?
Repeat the message as many times as you feel necessary.
In coaching, “continuity” is one of the keys to success. Just making a request once does not necessarily mean that the other person’s behavior will change. Rather, it is important to keep sending the message repeatedly so that they understand the strength and depth of what you, the coach, want.
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