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Some people interpret the phrase “mercy is not for the benefit of others” to mean that it is not in the person’s best interest to show mercy and that it is better to be cool with others\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What it really means is that “what you do out of natural affection for others will come back to you as a positive thing. In this case, the word “emotion” is not “pity” but “jyo,\uff08kanji\uff09” which might be a more appropriate way to put it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, is it affirmative to engage the other person by saying, “I say this for your sake”?
Rather than a natural “sentiment,” it feels somewhat like an “imposition. Psychologist Adler introduced the concept of “separation of tasks” to the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I, as a parent, say to you, “Study!” and I, the parent, say it because I am thinking of you,” he points out, is a misunderstanding on the part of the parent.
It is only the child’s task to study. So the hidden purpose of parents is to “satisfy their own needs” by saying, “My child got into \u3007\u3007 University because of my diligent coaching,” not realizing that there is a need for approval in the background.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Coaching focuses on the client. That is, of course, different from “imposing,” which is a “challenge” felt by the client himself. Therefore, the coaching session comes to life when we encourage focus from the following perspectives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n